The One Where Anju Wears A Wet Hat

On Monday, January 3rd, Anju had her third appointment at the University of Minnesota for the adoption study she is a part of. After an uneventful evening at the hotel in Minneapolis for the 5 of us (no puking this time-yay!), Anju woke up that morning with a slight fever. This being the end of our Christmas vacation trip, I think we were all a bit run down and pooped out. However, we had already rescheduled this appointment once due to weather, and they had paid for our hotel room the night before, so I figured we'd have to follow through. Fortunately, after she'd been awake for a half hour she perked up.

As we left Shawn and her siblings in the hotel room to enjoy the wifi connection, Anju noticed a Somali hotel worker cleaning in one of the rooms that had the door open. She was wearing a flowing garment with head covering. Anju walked up to the doorway and asked the woman (I'd guess in her 20's), "You from India?" The lady laughed and told Anju that she was from Somalia. Anju looked confused. I smiled at the worker and we went on our way. Anju asked in the elevator, "Why that lady wear India clothes? She not from India?" We discussed cultural clothing choices and the difference between Asia and Africa on our block walk to campus.

During the study, Anju again was given the opportunity to interact with a stranger while I ignored her doing "paperwork" (Parents magazine on a clipboard). She did NOT want anything to do with the stranger and stood holding my knees the whole time, asking to sit on my lap, which I was not supposed to allow. This was a change from last time, when she did leave me and was tempted by the toys the stranger had. She did cooperate with playing with me and the stranger later, however. We did a lot of the same activities. We played with play-doh, blew bubbles and tossed balloons. We built a structure with blocks. They sent in remote controlled trucks with weird decorations to see how freaked out she would be by them. She was more scared than last time, but didn't cry. They took her height and weight: 34 inches tall and 24 1/2 pounds. (Grew 2 inches, lost a half pound.) And, they took saliva samples throughout the 2-hour appointment, which we will also be doing at home.

Then the new aspect of the study. Instead of having sensors attached to her chest and back, she was supposed to wear a hat full of sensors to test her brain activity when stressed. I thought she would never do it, but believe it or not, she allowed them to put on the wet hat, place the sensors, and then use an eye dropper with water to activate the sensors that weren't being picked up by the computer. You may recall that the video they showed while attaching the sensors last time was not to Anju's liking, and she suggested Winnie the Pooh instead. She was elated that this time when they put on a video for her, it was Winnie the Pooh! Of course this was the video they always used for that test, but she was very excited that they had taken her advice. When the hat was on, they had her focus on a toy for a minute, then shut off the lights so it was completely dark for an unknown period of time. This went on for 5 or so minutes. When she was done, they asked her if she wanted a picture of herself in the funny hat. She responded that it wasn't a FUNNY hat, it was a WET hat. She thought Jonah would enjoy it, so allowed a picture.

Anju's next appointment will be at age 4 1/2, and the last time will be when she begins 1st grade to see how she has adjusted to school. They usually come and observe the child in the classroom, but most kids are in the Twin City metro area. We'll see if they really drive 5 hours one way to observe her.

She asked the staff for toys for her brother and sister in addition to the toy bag they gave her. So, armed with a goody bag for herself and 2 stuffed gorillas for her siblings, she proudly left the building. "I wear a wet hat, Mama! When we come again?"

Posts about Anju's first adoption study visit:

http://staffordsoflengby.blogspot.com/2009/08/home-at-last.html

http://staffordsoflengby.blogspot.com/2009/08/adoption-study-details.html

Posts about Anju's second adoption study visit:

http://staffordsoflengby.blogspot.com/2010/04/adoption-study-take-2.html

http://staffordsoflengby.blogspot.com/2010/04/more-about-study.html

December 10/Jan 11- in summary (more to come)

snow

more snow

even more snow

sinus infection

bronchitis

skate show

Sunday School program

2nd grade school program

church

lefse

swedish rice

gifts

church

packing

shopping

church

car

screaming

crying

cousins

playing

family

car

gifts

fudge

car

shopping

car

family

games

gifts

car

pink eye

fever

downtown

university

strangers

tears

biting

pinching

car

snow

ice!

car

home

meeting

fish is dead

boy is sad

brrrrrr!

own beds

Merry Christmas from Anju and all!

Paying it Forward

You may recall that we found Anju through the website Rainbowkids, which features children with special needs needing adoptive homes, three years ago in an article written by Teri Bell of AIAA. The article featured 3 children with spina bifida at Ashraya: a child we were pursuing who ended up being adopted by an Indian couple, Anju, and our friend Vismay. How delighted we are that all 3 of these children found families!

Teri is the one who visited Anju at 6 months of age right after she had been transfered to Ashraya from Sisters of Charity. We have pictures and videos that she took at that time which are priceless to us, and of course, we would never have read the description of Anju if not for her article.

Anju's baby pictures- taken by Teri

So, I was thrilled that a recent phone conversation with Teri resulted in her using Anju's picture and a few quotes from me in order to help promote the adoption of two more special children at Ashraya who are waiting for homes in her new article.

I have seen pictures of the girl with spina bifida who is described, and she just beautiful. I know that her birthday is a month off of Anju's and that she also was at Sisters of Charity before being transferred to Ashraya. The surgery they describe that she recently had was one that was brought up at Anju's last sb appointment --- we are doing therapy at home to prevent Anju from needing it.

As Teri and I discussed, and she mentions in the article, Ashraya is not a home. No matter how well they care for the children (and this could be debated but let's just let it go, shall we?), there is nothing more important than the love and attention a family provides.

Please pray with me for the children at Ashraya who wait.

My Little Snow Angel

Anju was giddy with excitement to get outside and enjoy our new snow. Since it was a mild day (upper 20's), I let her play around in the front yard while I watched from the front steps. She had a ball making snow angels, even though she sank pretty far into the snow and couldn't move much. She found our kid-sized snow shovel and did some shoveling for me. Maybe next time she'll even shovel somewhere near the sidewalk! She'll have plenty of opportunity for practice, as we're currently getting more snow, supposedly 8" or so.

Gotcha Day 2010

November 20th marked 2 years that Anju has been home with us in the USA. November reminds us so much of India and of those first moments spent with her, both abroad and at home. The two worlds mesh so well for us this month: the beginning of winter weather makes the intricate and comforting spicy curries so much more enjoyable and the Thanksgiving holiday falling so close to her Gotcha day causes us to reflect much on all the blessings she has brought to our family.

Anju's first smile for us at the airport in Amsterdam on November 20th (local time).

It was worth the wait.

Anju enjoys Dutch Apple Pie (which in the Netherlands is just apple pie) and a sausage roll

while waiting for our next flight in Amsterdam.

She did a good job of balancing herself on the bench while eating-

at this time she could not even stand by herself.

Anju with her ice cream pizza this year.

Pumpkin Huntin'

Last year, because of travel and weather, we never made it for our annual pumpkin patch trip. So, Anju had never had her own pumpkin before. This year, we found a local farm, and brought the kids to pick pumpkins. It was during an incredibly windy and cold spell--can you tell?

Anju picked the smallest pumpkin she could find. The thing was tiny in comparison to the huge pumpkins the other kids picked out--but she was just giddy about her "baby" pumpkin.

Anju dug right in like the older kids, enjoying the goo between her fingers once she saw that Solveig thought it was fun.

Anju carefully drew a face and little legs on her pumpkin with marker, and I sawed the holes in for her following her pattern.

Our 3 pumpkins lit up

On the 31st, we started the day with our Reformation Day celebration at church. After our wonderful worship service featuring Luther hymns, the kids brushed up on their Reformation history in Sunday School with a movie about Luther's life and some activities.

Then, in the afternoon, they got their costumes on to get some candy. Solveig spent the evening with her friends, and the other 2 kids went with us a few blocks away to our community Halloween party, where carnival games and drawings take the place of door-to-door treat seeking.

Solveig the spy

Bunny and pirate

Anju playing carnival games for candy at the community party